Another Thanksgiving has come and I have failed. On January 1st of this year, I set the goal to feed 10 families for Thanksgiving. Nothing extravagant. Just turkey, dressing, a few of the fixings, and maybe a dessert. Regardless, I failed.
I am not writing this for sympathy or for a pat on the back for trying or to be judged. I write this for four reasons:
- Thanks to social media we only seem to see people’s successes. The failures don’t seem to ever see the light of Facebook. I am here to tell you it is not all sunshine and rainbows. I don’t know about the rest of you, but I fail all the time. I think it happens to everyone, but looking at social media you wouldn’t have any idea. This is one of my failures. I failed to hit my goal.
- Far too many people blame their failures and shortcomings on someone or something else. The truth is for 100% of failures there is only one person to blame. For me that person is me. Without a doubt, there are some situations that happened this year that I could easily blame my failure on, but the truth is I made some bad decisions and did not earn enough money to accomplish my goal. The truth is, even facing the fact that I didn’t have the money to accomplish my goal, I did not get off my ass and even try to raise the funds. There is absolutely no one to blame, but me. I should have handled everything that occurred this year better and made better decisions more conducive to my goals. However, I didn’t. Remember this next time you go to blame someone else for something that happened: If you dig deep enough the cause of the failure is always the same…. you!
- Regardless of who is to blame, whatever the situation, it is yours to handle. No one is going to swoop in and solve all your problems. The only one that can fix your mistakes is you. You can either suck it up, learn from your mistakes, and do better next time or you can sit around and feel sorry for yourself. I am going to learn from the wrong decisions I made and GUARANTEE that next year I will feed those 10 families no matter what.
- I want to put this out there now for the accountability of all those who read this. I will feed 10 families for Thanksgiving next year. I will not fail this time around. If you see me messing up, call me on it. We are all in this together.